Life, it has its own reasons, effects and consequences. It begins with a cry; it ends with a cry. Meanwhile it’s all about each type of emotions and feelings one can even think about. For some it’s a bone, for some it’s a bane and for rest it’s just about living. Yes, when it brings smiles we are thankful, thankful to the people around; when it doesn’t we hate it, we hate the same people around whom we were thankful, we hate ourselves, we hate the life we are living.
Now a question comes to my mind: Do we have the right to hate ourselves? Do we have the right to hate our life? I gave it a thought, when I tried to search for the answer, I ended up asking another question: Did it was our decision to have this life? This time the answer was clear: No. We were not born of our own wish, we were given this life, it could have been willingly or unwillingly but the decision was surely not ours. Our life is not our own, it is gifted to us. Hence how come we own the right to hate ourselves i.e. hate our life, when it was never our own.
Last evening read a real life story of a girl who after failing in love ended her life, leaving her old disabled parents behind, living a life bitter than death, but in spite of this they didn’t took the same way which their loving daughter took. They decided to dedicate what else countable heartbeats they possess for the welfare of the nature, for the welfare of the needy, for the welfare of the society.
What the old parents did was bravery, why do I called it bravery not because they were able to hide the pain of loosing there own young daughter, but because they were brave enough to live, to survive the toughest of the times which we cant even think about facing, brave enough to live there life and not letting it become futile instead to make it fruitful, fruits which can serve the people around, serve the society. They are a lesson in themselves, lesson to change the aim. The parents who were living for there selfish daughter (yes she was “selfish” who kept her wishes above those of people loving her) are now have a different aim, they have a different reason to survive. Such reason can be for anything for the wishes we have, for society, for nature, for animals, for needy, for nation or it could be anything which can pay back the gift of life. Be a tree, even when it’s out of fruits or flowers it doesn’t kill itself, it stands tall and gives shadows to the strangers without any expectations of getting return backs.
The answer is, we don’t even have the smallest of the right to hate ourselves, yes we can hate others how much we want to but we can never hate ourselves and those who does for them I would say : “In the tough situation you are, it can be the mistake of your deeds but not the mistake of real you; who is crying; who wants to punish him/herself, ask yourself, can’t the deeds be corrected, can’t the aim be changed, think about it, yes you can correct your deeds, for that you have this opportunity to live long and get all your wrong decisions amended, even if you feel no one needs you, than its the people in worse conditions who need someone to help, needs you, act for them try living for them, make use of the opportunity and let the life you possess be proved as the best gift you ever had.”
We have a beautiful life gifted to us, living it to the extent and spreading selfless smiles can only be one of the ultimate things we can aim for. Instead of expecting more gifts from it, giving few back are the better acts that can be performed by us on this journey full of strangers and hurdles. When have nothing to loose, heart don’t wants to beats, mind stops working, end expectations, just keep moving and serving all the way along. When the times are really tough slow down the pace but keep walking as the road is long and the scenes are numerous. Let you be the tough tree, spread the shadow, pay the debt, and grow to the new heights. Sky awaits you; Sun is waiting to see you next morning.